I’m very sorry that this happened.
For the first question:
No. Unfortunately it’s virtually and practically impossible to crack the passphrase by letting the recovery tool run forever. It would take more than a 100 years to crack on a regular machine. Plus the power consumption. Plus overheating.
Have you tried to do a recovery of deleted files? There might be a chance of recovering the lost (deleted) files by doing the full check in the recovery tools.
Here is the list if tools that might help: https://www.computerworld.com/article/2501547/data-storage-solutions/data-storage-solutions-6-data-recovery-tools-for-sd-cards-usb-drives-and-more.html
If you can’t recover the data yourself, try the professional data recovery services in your area. They may charge a lot, but if it’s your last chance, your reward in case of success is much bigger.
Try to remember what common passwords or anything important you could make a passphrase with. Like… anything. You’ve made the passphrase after all. How many words can it contain? How many characters? Anything can help.
@Thyruz, thank you so much for letting me know that somebody needs my help.